You two met. You fell in love and now you are spending your lives together in blissful harmony! Well, as sweet, simple and desirable as this sounds, it’s not always the case with everybody. Of course, relationships come with their fair share of ups and downs, but some turn unhealthy and potentially dangerous over a period of time. Some people find it difficult to identify toxic relationships, even with signs that might appear obvious to others. Also, even if they realise or recognise the red flags, they tend to remain in denial coz they care. At the end of the day, relationships should be your source of happiness, not frustration. Here we share some of the top danger signs in a relationship. If you notice even one, it might be time to call it off.
Lack of Effort
Just because they are available physically doesn’t mean they are investing or putting any effort into the relationship. If the mere thought of putting in effort like getting a surprise gift once in a while, planning a dinner etc. feels exhausting or you both don’t want to spend time together or they are less polite now – it’s your sign to leave. Do remember that you cannot grow as a couple if you are not putting in equal efforts.
Your relationship doesn’t have to be a fairy tale but at least happy and healthy. Facing constant dramas and conflicts is a sign that you are in an unhealthy relationship.
Need to Ask for Permission
It’s fine to take your girlfriend/boyfriend’s thoughts and feelings into consideration during decision-making. However, he or she shouldn’t be the one who has to give you a go-ahead always.
Red Alert! Arguing is one thing but raising the hand is completely unacceptable. A healthy relationship involves no kind of abuse, especially physical. In case you feel like it’s dangerous to leave your abusive partner, there are several helpline numbers you can get in touch with and get yourself rescued.
Feeling Drained or Lethargic Constantly
Do you feel relieved or exhausted after spending time with your partner? If it’s the latter, it’s the sign your relationship is draining you emotionally and mentally. We understand that not every day will be a cakewalk, but if he or she is someone who makes you feel sluggish or lifeless, there are chances that the ‘spark’ that once made you fall in love with them has faded away and it’s time to move on.
Your partner is someone you can rely on and can be vulnerable around. But with a lack or absence of trust, these things are not possible. Moreover, if they’ve started to keep things from you, it’s a sign that your relationship is going nowhere. Please note that there is a fine line of difference between secrecy and privacy.
Feeling Belittled and Ashamed
Does your partner has a condescending tone? Do they belittle you? Do they make fun of you (and not in a good way)? Make you feel stupid or ashamed? All of these are the danger signs in a relationship. These are the kind of partners that enjoy thriving on your wrongs, failures and shortcomings. A healthy relationship is one where your partner shows appreciation, love and care. So, if they treat you any less, it’s time to leave.
Jealousy & Possessiveness
Excessive jealousy and possessiveness can torture you emotionally and mentally. Their possessiveness and controlling nature can even isolate you from the outside world. So, if your partner is insecure, needy, blaming selfish, manipulative, etc. – just run away!
Toxic relationships can cost you heavily. Therefore, it’s better to invest your time and energy from where you get a peaceful and positive ROI. Rest, listen to your heart, stay true to yourself, be aware of these danger signs in a relationship and get out of it as soon as possible.