Unlike men (who simply go by the words as it is), women have different ways of communicating with their significant other. What she says and what she means are, often, the complete opposite. If you go past her words and dig deep, you will be able to understand what she actually means. Doesn’t matter if it’s your forte or not, men are expected to read between the lines. In this blog, we translate the things your girlfriend says but doesn’t mean – you will thank us later!
I am Fine
No, she’s not! The phrase clearly shouts the opposite. It means she is upset or angry or annoyed or going through all of these emotions. And asking her ‘What’s wrong’ repeatedly won’t take you anywhere. You have to handle this situation carefully. Sit by her for some time, don’t say anything even if you want, choose your words wisely and just hug her. Once she sees you genuinely want to hear her out, she’ll open up to you herself. Girls tend to say ‘I am fine’ when she is not because she doesn’t want to bother you. Besides, she likes to see how far you are willing to go to understand her.
Just do Whatever you Want
Try to not do whatever you want when she says this. Or get ready for consecutive days and nights of ignorance – your choice. This phrase is basically a test of your judgement. If you think she is not fine with whatever you want to do, don’t do it. If you think she is actually fine with whatever you want to do, don’t do it. Read that again!
I am not Mad at you
Means she is mad at you. Guys, beware! You might want to handle this one with precision. Chances are, at this point, she is boiling inside to vent out her feelings and you will suffer her discontentment. Don’t ignore this kind of conversation and talk it through. Calm her out and understand the reason behind her anger. If you put a little attention, you will get it in no time that there might be a misunderstanding, emotional need, not giving enough attention, staying late at work, etc. Once you are certain, use both words and actions to make it up to her. In such a situation, you can accompany your apology with meaningful sorry gifts. It will represent your sincere sorry and you will soon find her smothering you with hugs and kisses.
Leave Me Alone
When your girl uses this phrase, 99.99999% of the time it means ‘hold me tight’ and ‘don’t leave me alone’. In case you are confused, instead of getting all fired up, you can ask her softly, ‘You sure you want me to leave?’ If your girlfriend doesn’t answer that, you better stay by her side, cuddle her and simply caress her hair. She will melt down in no time and let you know what’s wrong with her. However, space is also important in a relationship. If you know her all inside and out, you might want to give her some time to cool down. There is a fine line between knowing when she needs you to comfort her and when she needs you to respect her need for space.
Oh, I hear you loud and clear but I am still giving you a chance to rectify what you said. With this sentence, she is not asking you to pardon. Instead, you still have time to rearrange your words. Or if you are not able to twist your words, you can always say ‘My bad’ and end this.
So these were some common things your girlfriend says but doesn’t mean. So next time you hear phrases like fine, maybe, I’m not mad, etc., you know how to respond. Nonetheless, here are some ways to maintain a healthy relationship with your girlfriend which we believe will come in handy. Check them out!